Some Truth about Lies
Why people lie? In one article in psychology of lying, explains that people may lie due to the following reasons;
Fear of the consequences when they tell the truth
To boost their self-image inappropriately
To deliberately harm others.
Accordingly, to understand lying someone needs to understand these reasons for lying.
In other explanation, it is even disputed that a lie is not a lie if someone DOES NOT deliberately harm or take advantage of others by altering the truth, if a lie was made for a good intention and will benefit the person. Others would have called this as white lies.
How to tell if a person is lying?These are some signs as according to behavioural-psychology.suite.101;
Some people give away signs of lying without even realizing it. These are not as accurate as a lie detector, but here are some possible indications and what to look for a person who is “possibly” lying:
•They add way too many details to their story. Sometimes so many that it starts to sound ridiculous because most people don’t keep track of a lot of silly details. “Then I stopped and noticed a piece of gum on the sidewalk.” or some other silly irrelevant detail.
•Frequent blinking. Maybe they’re trying to unconsciously hide their lie by doing this, but instead give it away. (Keep in mind there are other reasons for excessive blinking such as sensitive eyes or contact lenses)
•Their eyebrows become raised. This is what I called fixated eyes (no blink)… This is not proof of lying on its own, but combined with other things it does tend to signify defensiveness. If they know about the blinking they tend to do this to over compensate. This one in particular seems hard for people to stop doing.
•Overreacting by immediately acting angry and defensive, perhaps to try to force a change of subject or to make the person submit to their story.
•They’re unable to look you in the eye or hold a gaze for any length of time. Sociopaths can probably look you in the eye and lie no problem, so you can’t always depend on this one.
•They cover their mouth as if to cover the lie. (Others would show mannerisms, like picking fingers, create psychosomatic coughs and even runny nose). A lot of face touching in general is not a good sign.
•Instead of answering a question with a straight answer, they will echo back what you just asked them. Example: “Did you take that cookie?” “Are you asking me if I took that cookie?”
•The accused becomes the accuser by pointing the finger and projecting the misdeed elsewhere. Some would start asking questions vindicating you. Example: “Why are you doing this? or You never stopped talking, I’m too tired for this”.
In the end, I would say that lying is never really a cool habit as one lie will save you once, but it will lead you to another. It is addicting in nature as it will tempt you to lie until you do it again and again. The moment you realise it, you are drowned and you are living your life in a lie and it will need an even great deal of work to live to the truth. So why make your life miserable by lying? Besides, truth will always set us free.
How about you? Do you think there are good lies?
